Some people might look to exercise or heading to the gym as an escape from certain parts of their life, and they might out their partner in that same category at times. Maybe your better half doesn't always seem as the perfect training partner and, yes, sometimes #instacouples make the though of heading to the gym to train as a couple seem nauseating. But, are we missing a trick? Should we be scheduling some of our training sessions together? In this blog, we take a look at some of the science that points to extra benefits we might get when couples train together.
Couples Who Train Together...
Couples Who Train Together, Stay Together - why you should start working out with your better half
Even if you might think that the gym could be the perfect place for arguments or frustration, it may actually help increase your happiness within your relationship. Studies show that after taking part in an exciting physical challenge or activity, couples report feeling more satisfied with their relationships and more in love with their partner, compared to a mundane task (1).Exercise is a perfect example of the type of invigorating activity that can have these positive effects. So, skip an evening of watching Netflix and take your partner to the gym.
Couples report feeling more satisfied with their relationships and more in love with their partner, compared to a mundane task
Share a Common Goal
When partners care about both their own fitness and their partner’s it can become easier to achieve their fitness goals. Couples offer the perfect training partners to offer support as you work towards a certain objective. For examples, husbands who care about fitness engage in more physical activity when their wives offer more supportive health-related comments (2). Goals such as weight loss are more successful when they are seen as a ‘team effort’ within a romantic relationship (3). So whether you are looking to complete your first 5k, hit a new deadlift pb, or lose weight for the summer, approaching it together can mean that you both experience the ups and downs, and can offer support throughout the entire journey.
One of the biggest obstacles stopping people from exercising is a lack of time. Being in a relationship can complicate this further if you are the sort who likes to spend every evening at the gym after work. The answer? Workout with your partner. If you usually take it turns to train while the other person looks after the kids, try to schedule at least one training session in a week. Think of it as an active date night. Can't get childcare covered? Then get the whole family involved. You don't have to have your 5 year old spot you for a bench press PB, but you can all get out as a family for a walk, jog, bike ride or easy cardio session.
Better Sex Life
This is the one we all wanted to see isn't it? Does training together help improve a couples' sex life? Well, feeling happier is a natural byproduct of exercise due to the feel-good chemicals (endorphins) that it helps you release. The release of endorphins also helps ramp up your sex drive, so not only will working out together make you happier, but it will up your desire. Numerous studies have shown the link between exercising and an acute increase in sexual arousal and desire.
While there are no guarantees of anything in life - yes, there is plenty of reason to think that couples that train together are likely to have a better sex life.
- Aron, A., Norman, C. C., Aron, E. N., McKenna, C., & Heyman, R. E. (2000). Couples' shared participation in novel and arousing activities and experienced relationship quality. Journal of personality and social psychology, 78(2), 273.
- Skoyen, J. A., Blank, E., Corkery, S. A., & Butler, E. A. (2013). The interplay of partner influence and individual values predicts daily fluctuations in eating and physical activity. Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, 30(8), 1000-1019.
- Dailey, R. M. (2018). Exploring the role of the romantic relationship context in weight loss. Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, 35(5), 679-701.